Well I have finally found time to blog again although it isn’t going to be a long one. I hate Clearing…… Well actually I don’t it just takes a lot out of me and involves me working 8 days solid – finally got some time off today. Shall see how we are doing when I go in on Tuesday – it’s been tough again this year but we were getting there as of yesterday.
Anyway enough of my work life – time to talk about what this blog is supposedly about. We had the meeting with our potential link’s SW today. In fact as T put it later we had SWs in our house today for the longest time thus far in the process as ours arrived at 1.15 and left at 4.45. She came early to discuss the child’s SW questions with us before she arrived at 2.30 – which we both felt was valuable. Also finally managed to show her the fence round the patio which was partially her suggestion in the first place. It is now partially painted so doesn’t quite look like it does below.
The pre-discussion made the subsequent 2 hr discussion go a lot easier. Not going to talk much about the questions as a lot were pertinent to our potential links story – and it is his story. Did talk a bit about his age and why we were not dead set on having a very young baby (honest answer – ever since I started thinking about adoption as a single mother 11 years+ ago for some reason I always envisaged a toddler). We also discussed a fair amount about attachment and we would foster the breaking of current attachment to foster carer and making attachment to us. Also got to here a bit more of his background and talk about contact (which is a bit of a minefield in this case).
His SW assured us he is still developing at the right pace and is a lovely little boy. He is well attached to his FC, and seemed to cope ok with his respite placements. Indeed apparently every FC he spends some time with wants to keep him. After it was all done and his SW left ours said she felt we had presented ourselves really well and answered the questions as she expected. Just got to wait with everything crossed till next week. Hopefully we should know on Tuesday after his SW has spoken to her manager. Then we should get some photos of him which means we can start talking a little to our families about him – well ok my sister & brother-in-law know a fair bit but they are adopters themselves.
I am feeling more positive than I did before – this does feel like the right match for us so just got to hope his SW agrees.