Ramblings for #waso. My adoption twitter has been alive with people/talking about AUK conference yesterday and Dan Hughes talk. Wish I had been able to go but from when it was announced we knew it would be a no-go. Should have (on original plan) just finished Intros this weekend and even though yesterday was 4 weeks from placement still not a good time for me to be away from Sqk yet.
However yesterday Sqk met one of the 2 remaining immediate family members and also his paternal grandparents for a second time. We went over to my in-laws house and my sister-in-law was there as well – so now Sqk just needs to meet my father. For complicated reasons my parents are still married after 42 years but live 200 miles apart – well Mum spends half her time here where all her grandsons are and half her time don on Isle of Wight where Dad works. Will be Christmas before Sqk meets his other grandfather in person although we may try video call at some point soon while Mum is down there.
I was saying to T earlier today that it doesn't feel like we will only have known Sqk 6 weeks tomorrow – it feels so much longer. He has settled in remarkably well with so far little sign of grief at loss of his FC of over 2 years. He calls for us when distressed and generally treats us as his caregivers now. The bonds are there and attachment is slowly forming – it will be a while as I know. I have been advised by more experienced adopters that his grief over FC may come after we meet her again – planned for early New Year I think. Shall see how Sqk does over Christmas and take it from there – luckily it happens to be our year for my family so we can walk to and from my parents house for a meal and otherwise spend the day quietly in our home.
Early January is going to be an interesting time as looking very likely that is when we will be meeting birth parents and also having direct contact (one-off) with Sqk's birth siblings who are both in care. Rushing this slightly as want to do it before his SW goes on maternity leave in middle of January.
Had a fairly straightforward week – Sqk and I have done bits and pieces. Wednesday wa sour busiest day – we met up with two of the other Mums from prep course in the morning and are starting to get regular play dates arranged. Then in afternoon went to my sisters as Sqk's elder cousin wanted to see him. This is the only family member apart from us who Sqk can name as yet – which amuses us all. They had a fun time – well Sqk wandered about a bit and played with anything and everything he could find. Still a bit young for play dough it appears although he did enjoy a little time with it./Much more interested in cars and the Fisher Price garage.
We had our first LAC review on Thursday which went incredibly well with all the comments being really positive. Our IRO said he had a really good day as it had been the review for the birth siblings that morning and both of them seem to be doing a lot better than they were initially. Also floated my idea of seeing if the local pre-school can have Sqk one morning a week in January which everyone seemed to think was a good idea. Gives me best part of 7 months to get him used to the idea of being away from me when I go back to work.
Friday we appear to have finally got our boiler issues of the last 15 months sorted. It was fitted in May 2012, and since Sept 2012 had been making horrendous noise every once in a while – to begin with regularly and it was thought to be air in the system. Time has gone on and we have loads of new bits fitted but still we got it. Finally on Friday the expert from manufacturer came, fitted a new gas valve and since then no rumbles. Sqk used to laugh at them – he loves strange noises 🙂
This has been a somewhat strange post as I am rambling, but got down some of the thoughts. Need to get back to blogging a bit more regularly – Sqk and I are getting a routine established during the day while Daddy is out at work so I should find time soon I hope.