15000 kids and counting

Some quick thoughts after watching this programme on Channel 4 (also recorded for future viewing). Just edited and linking to #waso as I may not get chance to write much on this week’s theme.

This was a hard watch tonight given how close some of it hit to Sqk’s story. Plus my high empathy level really meant I sympathised with some of the birth parents. On the whole it presented a balanced and unbiased view of how the decisions about children in care are made. I did feel for Emily in particular who was brave but who just couldn’t face final contact. But it was interesting to see her and her partner not fight the placement order request but just hope judge would turn it down. Also how she couldn’t leave her partner – or feel she could cope without him. Sad to see after court decision her hopes that her daughter would have a better life than she did through adoption. Also a telling comment from adoption team about how a baby would be easy to place.

Good on Stockport Childrens Social Services for letting the cameras have the access to show as much as they could about how much goes into decisions made about children’s futures. One of the families shown felt so similar to Sqk’s background that it hurt but it also made me think lots. Overall the programme seems to have provoked some real discussion on Twitter and I will admit to looking forward to watching the next two episodes. Tonight’s showed how the decisions for final removal occur and next week’s looks at family finding from what I could see on trailer.

Tonight’s concentrated on babies removed pretty much at birth – would have been nice to see a bit more on older children and how much SS do to support birth families to keep their children. I suspect this may have been thought to be inappropriate to show and they could have been confidentiality issues. It would also have been nice to see something of home life but of course that raises more confidentiality issues. Sqk was removed at birth (holdups in system mean it was gone 2 years before he came to us) so a lot of what I saw tonight resonated with us both.

Information I can find about next week says they are looking at family finding for a 2 year old boy (so close to home) and a 3 & 7 yr sibling pair. So they are looking at this from the perspective of the more difficult to place children.

All in all a well-presented and thoughtful programme that allowed social workers for once to show their side of the story. Reminded me why I have such respect for child protection social workers and the difficult line they have to tread.

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Adopter with husband T of our son Sqk. Approved at end of July 2013 and Sqk moved in in mid October 2013. Riding the roller-coaster road of adoption although in our case it is not as much of a roller-coaster as it is for many....

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Adopter with husband T of our son Sqk. Approved at end of July 2013 and Sqk moved in in mid October 2013. Riding the roller-coaster road of adoption although in our case it is not as much of a roller-coaster as it is for many....

4 thoughts on “15000 kids and counting”

  1. Agree very much with your conclusions. I found it sad that the additional help birth parents needed to make a difference to their life was not always available to them. Makes you question where is best to place the funding. One thing I can very much agree with is you positive praise of Stockport, they were our LA and were excellent.

    Thank you for sharing on #WASO. x

    1. I also found it sad that the help was not always available. The amount of funding is finite in the end and difficult to judge where it is best to go.

  2. I thought it showed really well how hard it is to keep the child at the centre of the process when the situations of the birth parents are so complex, and there really is a feeling that if only the support was available, they might be able to make the changes that are needed, but these little ones can’t wait around indefinitely on the hope that it might happen. See situations like these as a foster carer all too often.

    1. Aye things cannot wait around indefinitely. Sqk’s placement order took far too long to be granted although it was a good thing for us in that he became available when he did.

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