This is a hard one for me as there are a few things this week that have been great although one of them I talked about last week in our meeting with Pickle’s Mummy at Clumber Park. I think Sqk would count that the best day of this week as he got to puddle splash lots and saw a baby frog. He and Pickle had a great time on what was best day of week in terms of weather till today. Then yesterday we met up with his foster carer and two foster siblings again which made him so happy. Less fallout overnight this time and he & I had a conversation last night about the fact that he was with us forever now and no-one can take him away from Mummy & Daddy. It was lovely to watch him with the two older children and also great for me to see how they interacted with me.
For myself and DH I suppose Wednesday is a day that will live in our memory as we are finally able to say that this little boy who has been in our lives for 7 months & 23 days became ours and only ours. Bizzarely I was at the hairdressers on our first adjourned final hearing date 6 weeks back and once again we were there this Wednesday when I got the phone call to tell me it had all gone through. It is strange looking at our little boy and knowing that he is ours legally with no-one we share parental responsibility with. Of course it wouldn’t us without one last wiggle on the path. Originally had a celebration hearing date set for 27 days from final hearing but courts no apparently have to leave 28 days to allow birth parents one last chance to appeal 🙁 So our celebration hearing is now almost 7 weeks after final hearing as the next date court had was during our holiday. So DH gets to celebrate his birthday by having the final acknowledgement he has a son – as he says it is one of the best birthday presents he could wish for. We celebrated on Wednesday with a sneaky kir, and only today we got a lovely bouquet of flowers.
The story behind the bouquet is long and complicated as it came from the parents of one of our great friends (& one of the two we blame for us meeting) . She was a referee and due to an alleged safeguarding issue with her father we had fa slightly complicated time through our approval process. The news that all allegations had gone came to them as a family the night before Sqk moved in permanently and I think she and her parents have a great deal of feeling about our little boy because DH & I were absolutely determined that our friend was going to be involved and also were very much of belief that the allegations were wrong. I think these flowers are in part an acknowledgement of the unsaid support we gave them for the 18 months of hell they went through as a family. Our friend is seriously looking at adoption as a singleton so loves the time she can spend with Sqk.
All in all a week of highs & lows (main low being the accident Sqk had this morning which has left him with a lovely black eye & graze above his left eye). But a week we shall remember.