On this date (Tuesday) a year ago, I was doing anything I could to keep busy & distracted – as we had all bank holiday weekend. We’d had the meeting on the Friday afternoon with Sqk’s social worker and were waiting to be told whether we were going to be linked to the little boy who by this time we both had invested a lot of our hearts into. It was late in the day when I got a phonecall from DH to say it was official as the Timehop of my second twitter post of the day shows.
So hard to realise that this is a year ago – watching a lot of the approved adopters I know on Twitter being linked in last couple of weeks and it has brought back a lot of the emotions of the time even though – as DH & I both admit – last August is somewhat of a blur. We heard about Sqk for the first time on 25th July (4 days before our approval panel), said we wanted to go further to our SW before going into panel on 29th July. On 31st July we were given the date of that meeting (23rd August) that has in the end changed our lives.
Now a year on I sit at my desk at work (where I was a year ago) knowing our son is at his childminders having been with us over 10 months – and legally our son for 3 months tomorrow. Yesterday we got his passport through the post so now everything is in his new name. Trying to explain to people who have not been through the adoption process quite what a minefield of emotion it can be is hard. I am, sat here with a few tears in my eyes as I have just been reading back over some of the posts I made last year before Sqk arrived.
A week today he will had his first visit to school nursery by now and will be enjoying having Mummy & Daddy around for a full day. Just hoping it all goes well with the school although they do seem to have got the importance of what we are saying. At the moment Sqk seems fine academically although he is probably a little behind in emotional terms – then again he is going to be one of the youngest in his year so there is no real surprise there.
Life has changed so much in so little time really but it also feels a lifetime since Sqk joined us – and it isn’t. I love my little boy and cannot wait till the end of day at work to meet him – although every time I look up from my computer I smile as on the noticeboard above my desk is a growing set of photos of our son that make me smile every time I look at them.