Moving forward

Been over a month since I blogged – various reasons behind that. Felt need this week to write a bit however following on from our first Adoption Forum on Wednesday. It was an interesting evening which I sat and listened to as Sqk only just started at school nursery so a lot of the issues around education do not effect us yet.

Talk about need to track data on adopted children as is done for LAC – I know the data will be there. Until this academic year I was a governor at a local secondary school (well advisor for last year since academy status). Given my interests I took on board looking at pupil premium & SEN – which means I have seen what information this school has on each individual pupil. It should not be too much work to extend data gathering already done for LAC children to the other groups who get PP+.

Also discussions about how PP+ is spent and what influence we as parents can have on that. The head-teacher of the virtual school made it clear she was willing to help parents who were having issues with schools over this. Her presentation highlighted the information available on LAC which needs to be extended to those on ROs/SGOs & adopted children. A lot of suspicion that it will be found that outcomes are similar given our children were LAC in the past. But we just do not have the data to back this up. She took on board the fact that we would love her to have responsibility for tracking our children as is happening in one authority done south thanks to a local adopter. Seems to be support for this to go national but local push to see if we can get it in place in our district.

All in all an interesting meeting – DH and I are going to try to get babysitter in place for next one so he can come as well. Another local adopter has blogged about it here and the lead councillor for children & young people also wrote about it.

In other news, Sqk is doing well other than resisting going to sleep again and the little talk the male deputy head had to him regarding stripping seems so far to have solved that issue. Not removed all his clothes since… Some issues with toy throwing & occasional hitting but some of that is probably down to him being socially/emotionally young for his age and at younger end of year as well. We forced the dependency on us for attachment so yes we have held that side of his development back but for very good reasons. As another adopter put it we need them to become dependent before we can start on independence. Nursery staff have commented academically he ahead which surprised them as they we expecting regression in all areas. All in all he seems to be getting a secure base with his key worker and is secure with his childminder. Back to phase of stringing all his trains together to push round track.

Long trains again....
Long trains again….

At the moment we are going through a lot of first anniversaries – last Tuesday it was matching panel and this Tuesday it is the first time we meet Sqk. Then two weeks today is the first anniversary of his placement. The day before I am at Open Nest conference in York but we plan to do something on the Sunday. After all it is the day we became a family.

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Adopter with husband T of our son Sqk. Approved at end of July 2013 and Sqk moved in in mid October 2013. Riding the roller-coaster road of adoption although in our case it is not as much of a roller-coaster as it is for many....

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Adopter with husband T of our son Sqk. Approved at end of July 2013 and Sqk moved in in mid October 2013. Riding the roller-coaster road of adoption although in our case it is not as much of a roller-coaster as it is for many....

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