Well chance to have a discussion with his keyworker in the school nursery anyway. Sqk is apparently a very bright, outgoing little boy who knows his numbers, colours & shapes (working above expected age). He has settled in well (much better than we and they were anticipating – had adopted child 2 years ago so have some experience. Loves the ‘small world area’ which is basically cars & trains – has a favourite black taxi which he makes a beeline for everyday and pushes right round the nursery. Loves the water tray (wet jumpers every day) and loves going outside and playing. He is making good friends with a couple of other little boys but is not good at interacting with the other children at times beyond those 2. Socially & emotionally he is behind but as we say we knew that – and it is regression in the main. He started at nursery only 10.5 months after he was placed with us and is at the young end of his year anyway, However, they are noticing improvements and he is slowly catching up, but as I said I was the same – ahead academically, but very immature for my age otherwise so it is something I can well understand.
Apparently a couple of weeks back something clicked and he is now mainly not being a wriggly boy on the carpet at the end – although he has his moments. Being the bright little boy he is he has worked out that they can do nothing about him making random noise – so is they sit with him to stop wriggling he starts doing that 🙂 The main issue they have are the occasional days when he pushes & shoves other children (not maliciously – just because they are in his way and he doesn’t always understand waiting or asking them to move). Plus him not coping well with the once weekly music (singing) lesson which is in the music classroom. He seems to spend half the lesson just running round in circles – which following the AUK conference I recognise as one of his major regulation methods. So it is almost certainly transition and not coping with being out of a familiar place. He is fine in PE lessons – but then again that is mainly gentle movement at this age so the running around is not too much of an issue there. However, his keyworker is understanding and they don’t stop him running – just make sure he does it safely – and having had our discussion today she is understanding it more.
All in all a positive first proper talk with someone who deals with him in a learning environment and as DH said when I phoned him on walk back (I went to school & back three times today) nothing that surprises us. Just nice to have confirmation of what we have been feeling for a while. So far so good in the education vs adoption realm.
On other news, I am going to endeavour to take part in the Family of 5’s photo challenge so the photo here is mine for day 1 (‘me’)