Instagram: Images December 2016

My current view – in bed with cat curled up on stomach & Sqk curled up alongside me….. taken Dec 04, 2016 @ 09:09
My current view - in bed with cat curled up on stomach & Sqk curled up alongside me..... #youmademyday

Starting to look like Christmas around here… taken Dec 04, 2016 @ 22:17
Starting to look like Christmas around here...

The final new appliance in our kitchen. Washer-dryer – saying goodbye to our Siemens washer that has given us 10.5 years sterling service with nothing being done to it. taken Dec 09, 2016 @ 18:14
The final new appliance in our kitchen. Washer-dryer - saying goodbye to our Siemens washer that has given us 10.5 years sterling service with nothing being done to it.

Sqk’s homework – well part of it. Sentences dictated to Mummy for describing picture using adjectives… taken Dec 11, 2016 @ 15:47
Sqk's homework - well part of it. Sentences dictated to Mummy for describing picture using adjectives...
I sit down for 2 minutes while Sqk occupied & someone else decides they need attention… taken Dec 11, 2016 @ 16:45
I sit down for 2 minutes while Sqk occupied & someone els decides they need attention...

Sqk’s treat from our hairdresser. Grateful to her as we were very late – forgetful Mummy taken Dec 15, 2016 @ 18:32
Sqk's treat from our hairdresser. Grateful to her as we were very late - forgetful Mummy

My Christmas jumper today… taken Dec 16, 2016 @ 08:38
My Christmas jumper today...
Henry-dog staying so attempt to run off energy from both of them…. taken Dec 17, 2016 @ 13:44
Henry-dog staying so attempt to run off energy from both of them....

Christmas cake stage 2 complete…icing will go on on Wednesday when I am Sqkless during day as last day at school. taken Dec 17, 2016 @ 15:14
Christmas cake stage 2 complete...icing will go on on Wednesday when I am Sqkless during day as last day at school.

Stage 3 of cake done…decoration will happen once icing is dry and Sqk can help… taken Dec 21, 2016 @ 11:25
Stage 3 of cake done...decoration will happen once icing is dry and Sqk can help...
Sqk has more cards than Daddy & I combined. Thanks to being at school. Had to put them on shelves as would mean no more space on our string… taken Dec 22, 2016 @ 13:47Sqk has more cards than Daddy & I combined. Thanks to being at school. Had to put them on shelves as would mean no more space on our string...

Decorated cake…with Sqk’s help… taken Dec 22, 2016 @ 18:53
Decorated cake...with Sqk's help...

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Instagram: Lego City Advent 2016


#legocityadvent Day 1: a pair of snowmen. Well snowboy & snow fireman…. taken Dec 02, 2016 @ 08:32
#legocityadvent Day 1: a pair of snowmen. Well snowboy & snow fireman....
#legocityadvent Day 2: a rocking fireman to join snow fireman. taken Dec 02, 2016 @ 08:34
#legocityadvent Day 2: a rocking fireman to join snow fireman.
#legocityadvent Day 3: yesterday. Rocking fireman got microphone & speaker. taken Dec 04, 2016 @ 09:31
#legocityadvent Day 3: yesterday. Rocking fireman got microphone & speaker.
#legocityadvent Day 4: rocking girl fireman joined by boy fireman. taken Dec 04, 2016 @ 09:32
#legocityadvent Day 4: rocking girl fireman joined by boy fireman.
#legocityadvent Day 5: fireman gets a snowmobile which he shows off to rocking firewoman. taken Dec 05, 2016 @ 17:46
#legocityadvent Day 5: fireman gets a snowmobile which he shows off to rocking firewoman.
#legocityadvent Day 6: our fireman friend likes his new snow-plough particularly as snow seems to have fallen… taken Dec 06, 2016 @ 17:16
#legocityadvent Day 6: our fireman friend likes his new snow-plough particularly as snow seems to have fallen...
#legocityadvent Day 7: fireman & rocking fire girl are not entirely sure what has arrived today….wreath on a fence? taken Dec 07, 2016 @ 16:26
#legocityadvent Day 7: fireman & rocking fire girl are not entirely sure what has arrived today....wreath on a fence?
#legocityadvent Day 8: fireboy talking to ice hockey playing Lego man taken Dec 08, 2016 @ 18:22
#legocityadvent Day 8: fireboy talking to ice hockey playing Lego man
#legocityadvent Day9: ice hockey boy & fireboy discuss what has arrived in the city today… taken Dec 09, 2016 @ 16:45
#legocityadvent Day9: ice hockey boy & fireboy discuss what has arrived in the city today...
#legocityadvent. Day 10: girl hockey player joining boy hockey player on the ice… taken Dec 10, 2016 @ 10:46
#legocityadvent. Day 10: girl hockey player joining boy hockey player on the ice...
#legocityadvent Day 11: a tree with lights arrives in the city taken Dec 11, 2016 @ 10:13
#legocityadvent Day 11: a tree with lights arrives in the city
#legocityadvent Day 12: Today the city has gained a decorated street light which rocking firegirl has immediately appropriated… taken Dec 12, 2016 @ 17:37
#legocityadvent Day 12: Today the city has gained a decorated street light which rocking firegirl has immediately appropriated...
#legocityadvent Day 13: bearded firefighter not entirely sure what the city maintenance guy is doing but has come to say hello anyway. taken Dec 13, 2016 @ 17:05
#legocityadvent Day 13: bearded firefighter not entirely sure what the city maintenance guy is doing but has come to say hello anyway.
#legocityadvent Day 14: yesterday's city maintenance guy now has an explanation for his control unit – today he has a drone. taken Dec 14, 2016 @ 17:36
#legocityadvent Day 14: yesterday's city maintenance guy now has an explanation for his control unit - today he has a drone.
#legocityadvent Day 15: everyone crowds round the new shop that has appeared in the city taken Dec 15, 2016 @ 18:31
#legocityadvent Day 15: everyone crowds round the new shop that has appeared in the city
#legocityadvent Day 16: maintenance man gets another drone to explore with… taken Dec 16, 2016 @ 08:35
#legocityadvent Day 16: maintenance man gets another drone to explore with...
#legocityadvent Day 17: everyone crowds round to admire the new market stall. taken Dec 17, 2016 @ 14:28
#legocityadvent Day 17: everyone crowds round to admire the new market stall.
#legocityadvent Day 18: Bearded fireman & maintenance guy are not sure about the new gentleman who has arrived…why is he in breathing gear & what is he carrying… taken Dec 18, 2016 @ 12:11
#legocityadvent Day 18: Bearded fireman & maintenance guy are not sure about the new gentleman who has arrived...why is he in breathing gear & what is he carrying...
#legocityadvent Day 19: answer to yesterday provided by a pizza oven today. Strange guy is a pizza cook in breathing apparatus. taken Dec 19, 2016 @ 17:33
#legocityadvent Day 19: answer to yesterday provided by a pizza oven today. Strange guy is a pizza cook in breathing apparatus.
#legocityadvent Day 20: today the city folk gain two cash machines they think…. taken Dec 20, 2016 @ 17:47
#legocityadvent Day 20: today the city folk gain two cash machines they think....
#legocityadvent Day 21: today the good folks of the city finally get a Christmas tree. taken Dec 21, 2016 @ 08:55
#legocityadvent Day 21: today the good folks of the city finally get a Christmas tree.
#legocityadvent Day 22: today the city folk are joined by a husky complete with feeding trough.. taken Dec 22, 2016 @ 14:04
#legocityadvent Day 22: today the city folk are joined by a husky complete with feeding trough..
#legocityadvent Day 23: today Santa's sleigh arrived but no sign of the red-suited guy himself taken Dec 23, 2016 @ 12:35
#legocityadvent Day 23: today Santa's sleigh arrived but no sign of the red-suited guy himself
#legocityadvent Day 24: today Father Christmas has finally arrived. taken Dec 24, 2016 @ 08:43
#legocityadvent Day 24: today Father Christmas has finally arrived.

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Reflections

Well following parents evening a few weeks back and a meeting with the SENCO & Sqk’s class teacher a couple of Fridays ago, we are coming to the conclusion that we need to chase a diagnosis for Sqk. School once again suggested ADHD but our gut reaction is no .. backed up by his childminder (has been nanny to ADHD children) & my mother. I grew up with ADHD in my life as it is one (among several) conditions my brother has. Reading around and also taking a closer look at recent photos has us suspecting FASD – at least somewhere. So much fits other than his general cognitive ability – he struggles with handwriting but that is a fine motor control issue. His photos show some of the facial characteristics which would fit with what we suspect in that birth mother probably drank before she realised she was pregnant and then stopped.

He has 1:1 support in an afternoon at school and his teacher is doing what she can in a morning but his inability to focus for more than 5 minutes in a classroom is making it hard. He rarely joins in with rest of class – often sits with a Where’s Wally or similar book round corner apparently not engaging. However he is to a degree, given her story of the little voice chiming in from round the corner on several occasions when other children cannot answer question. The school have recognised his need for outdoor time (does help older adopted child in school really needs it), but are saying he is in many ways the hardest of the three adopted children currently in school as he has no learning difficulties as such – just the fine motor issue and inability to focus or sit still.

Between our referral to community paediatrician plus getting PAS involved and school’s approach via school nurse and EDPsych (eventually) hopefully we will get somewhere and find the appropriate therapies and interventions to help Sqk. He has a lot of potential if we can just get him supported and work through these issues. It may of course turn out to be mainly social immaturity but school feel it is more and at the moment we would agree. So on we tread with support of our new PASW who at least is listening and also being new to support team is working with manager in who I have some trust. Just got to hope imminent regionalisation doesn’t effect things.

An update

It's Remembrance Sunday when pre-Sqk I would have attended a service but this morning we are at soft-play to give Daddy chance to do a few jobs around the house. Not certain how much longer I will manage as headachy due to poor nights sleep. We seem to be taking it in turns at moment – Sqk had bad nights Weds/Thurs, DH Fri and me last night. Anxiety still about due to DH's job situation – we had less than a fortnight free of it after I made my decision before his boss asked him to start looking for another job. Sqk picks up on this however much we try.

My work is just a case of keeping head down and finishing out this term. Two more colleagues resigned at end of October (leave end of Jan) which in one fell swoop with my previous resignation has pretty much wiped out robotics & embedded systems… but that is there problem not ours. I believe remaining colleagues will be informed on Wednesday what final plan is – only 7 months since we were told we were being shut down.

On Sqk front, he seems to be coping at school – had my first conversation with a teacher over curriculum this week following a request for a baby photo for science. Turned out to be just looking at how they have changed over the years and she did say the message should have been baby or toddler. I have cunning plans for when inheritance from your parents comes and also round family trees. Parents evening this week so should get a better idea of how he is doing – still behind on writing but making bounds forward in reading and maths (provided you don't want him to write maths down) is what I expect. He had a couple of bad days in assembly this week but then did really well on Friday afternoon when he would have been really tired so normally would have played up. Mind you he has slept he clock round and over e last two nights so is catching up on that lost sleep.

We have been trying to explain the significance of poppies to him – we went to Caernarfon Castle last weekend to see the Weeping Window. Stayed with our two great friends on Anglesey which was lovely. Sqk' weekend highlight however was e visit to Electric Mountain (DeNorwig pump-storage power station) which he couldn't stop talking about according to school & childminder. Gave me a chance to explain electricity generation to him – with his Uncle M's help. He happens to have worked in nuclear power industry his entire career hence they location on Anglesey as he is an important part of the development of the new plant at Wylfa. His husband (and DH's best man) works in path lab for North Wales trust. Made us laugh that it takes B about the 10 mins longer to get to work than M and he goes 3 times as far if not more. As DH says A55 has made a real difference. I will admit that I have been keeping my eyes open for jobs at Bangor Uni as DH loves the area.

Mind you if T gets the job he applied for last weekend we are not moving anywhere. His perfect job came up (combining pharmacy and computing) which would be closer to home then where he is currently plus being a lot more flexible and desk based. So at the moment we have everything crossed for him. If he gets at I might actually not always be doing everything with Sqk during the working weekend gives us a further emergency contact beyond myself and my mother. Be good as my new job means I will be 30-40 mins away as opposed to the current 15-20.

Sqk saw the paediatrician a few weeks back and there is nothing physically wrong she thinks that is causing his fine motor issues. Awaiting an OT referral and have hearing test plus we need to organise sight test. And I really need to get onto PAS about assessment of need as we really do feel much of his issues can be put down to sensory processing. However he is making incredible progress – is now 91st centipede for height having grown 30cm from August 13 to Oct 16. A little concerned over head circumference which is only 9th centile but paediatrician said she thought it in part could be down to him having a flat back to his head as there is little sign of any the issues that can be associated with a small head.

Instagram: Images October 2016

Sqk enjoying himself while Daddy works. Couldn’t drive these by himself 6 months back…. taken Oct 01, 2016 @ 10:33
Sqk enjoying himself while Daddy works. Couldn't drive these by himself 6 months back....

A very unusual hat … Outside of turntable from Tidmouth sheds from wooden railway… taken Oct 09, 2016 @ 13:42
A very unusual hat ... Outside of turntable from Tidmouth sheds from wooden railway...

One very excited boy waiting for Thomas to start… taken Oct 16, 2016 @ 10:40
One thing excited boy waiting for Thomas to start...
In our favourite ride…. taken Oct 16, 2016 @ 10:56
In our favourite ride....
11 years ago unbeknownst to us DH & I were within a few feet of each other both watching the fireworks for Trafalgar 200th on Governors Green in Portsmouth. 3 months later we met and the rest us history you might say taken Oct 21, 2016 @ 10:59
11 years ago unbeknownst to us DH & I were within a few feet of each other both watching the fireworks for Trafalgar 200th on Governors Green in Portsmouth. 3 months later we met and the rest us history you might say

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Three years on…

Sqk in soft play today

Friday was the third anniversary of the day we met Sqk. I can still recall knocking on his FC's door and hearing a little voice coming running shouting Daddy, Mummy. Such a great way to meet our son who has changed our life in so many ways. We know we are incredibly lucky in having an adopted child with only a couple of issues – social/emotional delay and suspected sensory processing issues. He is pretty well attached to us and in many ways you would not know he was adopted in any way. He is a boisterous boy who is never happier than when given safe space to run, jump and generally muck around. His social delay is becoming an issue at school as he is struggling with he transition to year 1 although he still loves going to school and is making progress in every area except writing. Ask him something verbally and he can give you a really good answer but he still cannot get it down on paper even though he can also tell you how to form letters etc. They have been doing sentences recently and he is happy enough explaining all the rules but not happy to apply them on paper. We are working with him on the writing but also have a paediatrician's appointment on Friday to explore if there is any reason behind his writing difficulties as he is well behind the rest of the class even taki account of the fact he is a summer-born child. I do now regret not trying to defer his entry for a year although that would have caused issues in Reception due to it being shared space between the two forms. However if we can get the help we need with his writing he is fine academically otherwise apart from not wanting to sit still. He has the odd day when he is attention seeking and the teacher finds it difficult with him & 28 other children. We are awaiting PAS to get back to us having requested an assessment for SPD – prepared if necessary to fund therapy ourselves if ASF restrictions affect us. I really must find the time (& courage) this week to phone PAS as well as orthotics ( for Sqk) and orthodontics (for me) this week to chase things up.

Sqk struggles so much to sit still – manages for a short while when watching TV but then starts wriggling and eventually bouncing between our 2 sofas if in lounge. It isn't ADHD I do know as we have pretty much no sleep issues at all (occasional sleep resistance every 3-4months). I grew up with a hyperactive brother so I am well aware of how that presents. Sqk just seems to be seeking movement input all the time and loves swinging, spinning and bouncing which ties in with all I have read about SPD. I have been looking around and found an occupational therapist fairly locally (town around 15 miles north) who is accredited for SIT, SAI and DDP and who has experience with adopted/fostered children so get the feeling we may be trying to use her. However we need PAS to get back to us first….Made contact and had initial discussion in July so really need to push to see where they are. Hoping once RAA comes into being next April we might benefit from the PAS service in the next city which by all reports is pretty good.

Talking of the next city the move may be back on the cards at some point as T is looking for a new job which is fairly certain to involve him travelling to one of the towns on the other side of the M62 and east of us. My new job is in next city over so we are potentially looking at the east side of that city close to the good motorway links to give us both a better commute. All depends on which if any of the 5/6 jobs he has applied to actually come to fruition. Really hoping that it is one of the outpatient dispensary roles in hospital as that would really suit him. Means moving back to the large multiple who sold his current pharmacy to current boss back in 2012 but his then area manager is now in charge of hospital business for the company so actually works out well. We can but wait and see but that gentleman had been talking about moving T into OPD pharmacist role at the local hospital if the company had won that contract so even 5 years back recognised it was a role that would suit him.

T is being selective about where he applies for jobs – he really wants out of our current city which I can well understand. Bar any birth parent risk it is also not the easiest of places to work – in so many ways I am looking forward to moving jobs to the next city (it is around 3 miles further but avoids city centres) for similar reasons. Our city is on the up but it has a long long way to go.

 

Instagram: Images September 2016

The obligatory first day back at school – style 🙂 taken Sep 05, 2016 @ 10:27
The obligatory first day back at school - #adoption style :)

Proud Mummy. Sqk just read this to me with only a few words needing help taken Sep 14, 2016 @ 17:23
Proud Mummy. Sqk just read this to me with only a few words needing help #glowmo
On play area waiting for Daddy to sort NT membership to cover Sqk taken Sep 18, 2016 @ 11:01
On play area waiting for Daddy to sort NT membership to cover Sqk

Well last year this room hadn’t changed much since Intros book. Somewhat different now…. taken Sep 23, 2016 @ 08:33
Well last year this room hadn't changed much since Intros book. Somewhat different now....
Henry-cat has returned after being missing for nearly 3 weeks. Happy family… taken Sep 28, 2016 @ 20:25
Henry-cat has returned after being missing for nearly 3 weeks. Happy family...
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