Well following parents evening a few weeks back and a meeting with the SENCO & Sqk’s class teacher a couple of Fridays ago, we are coming to the conclusion that we need to chase a diagnosis for Sqk. School once again suggested ADHD but our gut reaction is no .. backed up by his childminder (has been nanny to ADHD children) & my mother. I grew up with ADHD in my life as it is one (among several) conditions my brother has. Reading around and also taking a closer look at recent photos has us suspecting FASD – at least somewhere. So much fits other than his general cognitive ability – he struggles with handwriting but that is a fine motor control issue. His photos show some of the facial characteristics which would fit with what we suspect in that birth mother probably drank before she realised she was pregnant and then stopped.
He has 1:1 support in an afternoon at school and his teacher is doing what she can in a morning but his inability to focus for more than 5 minutes in a classroom is making it hard. He rarely joins in with rest of class – often sits with a Where’s Wally or similar book round corner apparently not engaging. However he is to a degree, given her story of the little voice chiming in from round the corner on several occasions when other children cannot answer question. The school have recognised his need for outdoor time (does help older adopted child in school really needs it), but are saying he is in many ways the hardest of the three adopted children currently in school as he has no learning difficulties as such – just the fine motor issue and inability to focus or sit still.
Between our referral to community paediatrician plus getting PAS involved and school’s approach via school nurse and EDPsych (eventually) hopefully we will get somewhere and find the appropriate therapies and interventions to help Sqk. He has a lot of potential if we can just get him supported and work through these issues. It may of course turn out to be mainly social immaturity but school feel it is more and at the moment we would agree. So on we tread with support of our new PASW who at least is listening and also being new to support team is working with manager in who I have some trust. Just got to hope imminent regionalisation doesn’t effect things.
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Adopter with husband T of our son Sqk. Approved at end of July 2013 and Sqk moved in in mid October 2013. Riding the roller-coaster road of adoption although in our case it is not as much of a roller-coaster as it is for many....