I haven't posted much in a while – still getting used to this being a full-time Mummy & now Sqk doesn't need a nap that much I don't have that convenient time to organise my thoughts.
But the subject of this post is really the Panoroma programme “I Want My Baby Back” shown earlier in the week. Like many I watched this expecting sensation which is what we got. You would get impression from this programme that many children taken into care should never have been removed and as per usual social services get blame whereas they work from medical advice and indeed it is the family courts that make the ultimate decision. What it does highlight as other commentators have said is the need to open up the family courts somewhat and also to make sure medical evidence is considered properly.
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Today was my first day flying solo as T had to work. Also first day at our house – FC stayed as well. After a bit of kerfufle finding us (miscommunication over address) they arrived fine. The boy was alright – I'd got some of his toys out and about on lounge floor so it was at least some familiar stuff. We also explored the whole house and Henry-cat was very patient taking several/minutes fussing before deciding to hide. This was useful as the boy is not used to cats. He did get clingy to FC around lunchtime – general feeling was he was tired so we put him in our buggy after lunch and wandered up to the local park. He had a lot of fun running round trying out everything but fell asleep on short walk back. So I lifted him out of buggy, and brought him into house to lay on his bed. He came to as I lifted him up and as I took his coat of but washappy nough to snuggle back to sleep. FC and I chatted while he slept till I had to wake him so they could get out of our estate before local primary school finished. Chaos does not decsibe the roads at that point and they needed to be back in time to meet other 2 foster children off school bus.
All in all I felt today went ok – was expecting clingyness as he is confused and his secure base is FC at moment. Hopefully tomorrow will b easier when she leave him here. Got his SW coming in morning and then we are taking a trip to see Daddy at work, The boy was asking for T today which is the other reason he was clinging to FC as he has a much stronger attachment at the moment to his Daddy. I've got the time to work on that though.
This evening T attached a hook & eye to our downstairs cloakroom door as the boy kept going in there. We also have put eyes at top & bottom of stack of drawers in dining room so we can tie handles together as the boy also kept opening them. Otherwise fairly child-proofed house – at least on first visit 🙂
We spent bits of today wandering around various places looking at buggies, cots/toddler beds and the like. Not getting any of that till we have been officially linked and met foster carer. However we did get something that has been on the list for a while – namely a fireguard.
So that is one more item off the list – poor Henry is getting used to these stair gates – particularly one at top which means he can no longer get into bedrooms. Well not until he learns to jump it that is.
Main fun for him will really start when we put the gate into kitchen doorway – we have no door – it now is the cupboard door on landing (don’t ask it is a long story :D) This gate will block him from food and his cat flap – so we are suspecting we made need to find some way to make it easier for him to jump over. I wish somebody made a child gate with a cat flap in…..